Christmas is HOPE and PROMISE for the broken-hearted ❤️
For many, the holidays can be especially trying when relationships struggle to form or heal.
Do you or someone you know struggle with relationships?
Are you hurting right now?
A desired relationship, family, friends, spouse, and children can mean the world to us. Yet, we can find ourselves focusing on the negatives instead of the positives.
Preferring the person over the problem can significantly minimize feelings of rejection, frustration, and anger.
First and foremost, God created us for relationships, first with Himself and then with those around us.
Gen. 2:18 says, At the beginning of time, God said it was not good for us to be alone. So He gave us others to share life with–relationships.
Relationships help us develop values and character, think of others, share interests, learn, mature, and give and receive love.
Even though relationships supply so many positives to enhance our lives, they can also be our greatest challenge.
We must consider that people were not designed to meet all our needs, only God can.
That’s why our first relationship to master is with God.
Doing so teaches us to trust Him with everything people can’t provide, such as unconditional love, complete understanding, and forgiveness.
Even though he fell short many times, David in the Bible was a perfect example of what running to God looks like.
If we fail to put our relationship with God first, our relationships with people will become worn and complicated, as we look to them to give us what only God can supply.
In Mark 12:29-30, Jesus states the first and greatest commandment is to love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength. The second is to love your neighbor (others) as yourself.
When we don’t love the other person as much as we love ourselves, our own perspective will always take first place.
Loving God first makes us able.
All humans need love, acceptance, and understanding. Allowing God to fulfill those needs will keep us from putting unreasonable pressure on others.
Let’s admit it: we all get angry.
God knew we would and shows us how to deal with it without destroying our relationships–DON’T STAY ANGRY.
Eph. 4:26-27 puts it like this, “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger and give no opportunity to the devil.”
Don’t hold onto anger! Use it to make things better instead of letting it use you to divide and separate.
Be careful not to take things personally; instead consider what is at stake and what you can do to bring growth into the relationship.
Don’t wait for the other person–YOU do what’s right, for the sake of love.
Find a way to understand each other and learn how to team up to make the relationship work for you both.
At times, you will have to give more, and other times, they will, but when the other person does not contribute to growing the relationship, find comfort in knowing you did your part, and God will honor your efforts.
Ultimately, our hope is the other person will love us enough to stretch themselves out of their comfort zone and meet us halfway to build a relationship that works for both parties.
But if they are consistently unwilling, as hard as it is, we must let them go to find someone they feel is worth their effort to grow and allow change.
If we allow, God will give us the wisdom and self-control to give our best effort at everything in life, especially relationships because they are vitally important to Him.
Christmas is a celebration of Jesus’ birth. He came to free us from our inability to overcome our lower human nature which only thinks of self.
If you find yourself hurting, depressed, or lonely, I invite you to allow Christ to help you. It starts with accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and you can begin to experience His love, forgiveness, healing and direction.
He will keep His promises to you; you only need to work with Him to turn things around ❤️