by Ekaterina Stefanova
Guest Post
Is there a secret to a successful marriage?
Over the years, I have read many books on how to be a better wife, build healthy relationships, raise children, and have a successful marriage. All these books gave me something valuable. In searching for the “secret” to family success, as many of you do, I realized something extremely important.
For ten years of marriage, I can say with my hand on my heart – to have a blessed marriage; there is no secret, just a lot, a lot, a lot of work. Yes, work!
The family is like a garden
This year, we decided to plant more flowers with the children, and each of us would dedicate ourselves to helping them grow.
Before we planted, the day before we had to clean the garden from all the weeds and unnecessary foliage. That was a pretty dirty job.
The next day, we planted the seeds, water them and began to wait. While waiting every night, my kids knew they had to water and remove the grass that would sprout before the flower.
A little later, we bought more ready-made flowers for planting. The children learned how to take out the flower and how to prepare a hole for it, but gradually, they began to tire of daily care because, for every good thing, persistence and work are required.
Seeing all this, I realized that every family is like a garden – beautiful, fragrant, unique, only if there is someone to take care of it. It takes daily “work” to allow true love to root out every weed in you so you can give your best. This is the hardest because you must be humble and willing to be the best version of yourself and do the best for your husband/wife.
Problems in families appear because of our wrong idea that everything can be solved by itself. “Things will get better with time,” many say, but that never happens. When there is a problem, the steps are as follows:
-Honest conversation between husband and wife.
-Making clear decisions.
A lot of work involves not just wishful change but real change that can be seen in the heart.
Faith, Hope, and Love
Over the years, I have understood that true love grows and becomes more profound, wiser, and more hardworking in husband-wife relationships. Love motivates us daily to work so that our family, even in difficulties, can be firmly established on faith, Hope, and love.
Faith gives us the wings to fly over the mountains of fear; Hope gives us the strength to carry on even in difficult times. Love is the force that motivates us never to stop working and find joy and satisfaction in our homes.
Remember that your family is a garden, it takes work to keep this garden always beautiful.
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